Martin Köpp

So you want your ex back and are wondering how this can be done. Here is how you can go about it. Here are the three proven techniques which can be of a great help to you. First things first, you have to start with figuring out the problem. You have to find out what went wrong between the two of you.

So you want your ex back and are wondering how this can be done. Here is how you can go about it. Here are the three proven techniques which can be of a great help to you. First things first, you have to start with figuring out the problem. You have to find out what went wrong between the two of you.

Understanding the problem is necessary so that you can work in the right direction for finding the solution. Honesty is vital while dealing with the situation. You have to find out where you went wrong. The following are the three basic reasons why relationships come to an end:

*You wronged your mate.
*Your mate wronged you.
*Relationship drift-your mate is not as close to you as it used to be.

Secondly you must understand that each of the above grounds requires you to act differently and accordingly. Apologizing will not work, if your mate is not into you anymore as a result of relationship drift. It will be of help only for the first ground when you have wronged your mate. For a start, you can try find out and admit what went wrong and then plan out how can you get your ex back.

The third proven technique is to plan out your actions and steps. This article is too short to cover the plan of actions required in each of the grounds mentioned earlier. Let's say you wronged your mate. This includes you cheated on them, fought with them, did not pay them enough attention etc.

If you are in this situation, then here are the seven powerful steps which can be of great help to you. These steps work so well that sometimes you can get your ex back in just few days or even hours. If you can follow even four or five of these steps, it is possible you get back with your ex again.

The first step is to admit your mistake. Go up to your mate and confess. Tell them you made a mistake which you realize now. Honestly admitting your mistake will be of more help than saying "hey I cheated on you because you were so cold to me."

Arguing, defending or justifying yourself can work against you in this situation. All that is required here is simple admitting of your mistake. It is important for your ex to understand that you know how to admit your fault and take up responsibility for it. Your admitting your fault gives them a chance to forgive you. However this will not be possible if you do not own up to your mistake.

Secondly you are expected to understand what they feel. Tell them,"I know what you are going through and I know I have hurt you, broken your trust and wronged you". This will give them the assurance that you actually understand how they feel.

This step brings us to the third step. The third step is to be quite and patient and listen to your mate. Ask them what are they feeling and then just let them say what they want to. Let them open up to you and tell what they are going through. No arguments no defending and no justification, all that is required of you is listening. If you are able to follow these three steps effectively before you apologize, then it is quite possible you ex will forgive you and get back with you.